Breakups suck. Getting your heart broken isn’t much fun. Having to spend the whole day pretending to be okay is even worse. We all want to bounce back quickly and show to our exes that we are so much better off without them. So to help you reach that point of internal peace and closure, here are six healthy tips that will help you deal with your break up through humor and positivity:
1. Let Yourself Mourn
A lot of the time when people talk about ‘getting over a break up’ they talk as if you’re not allowed to feel sad. You don’t need to ‘stop being sad’ to get over the breakup. Let yourself mourn the breakup and give yourself the freedom to experience the negative emotions as part of the healing process. Establish a ‘mourning’ period where you can feel sorry for yourself and complain as much as you want. That way you get it out of your system and can focus on getting yourself back on track when it’s over.
2. Use Books to Escape the Overthinking
Don’t glorify your past relationship, remember that love is a beautiful thing and that you deserve the best. Fantasy books are great to escape your overthinking brain and stop you from overthinking about your break up. The best things to read in this state are books like ‘The Sweetest Dark’ saga to help you obsess about magic and mystery or ‘The Smoke Thief’, an epic romance with literally dragons and fantasy quests that will whisk you away to another world. You can find them all at www.jubimedia.com whenever you want to ‘get away from it all’.
3. Find Healthy Outlets
You will probably experience a lot of irrational emotions during a breakup, and that’s okay. Saying you shouldn’t feel this way won’t stop the feelings from popping up, so you need to find a healthy outlet for those emotions. Popular recommendations include: buying cheap plates only to break them; doing sports like boxing or even just finding private places where you can scream as loud as you want without people thinking you’re getting murdered.
4. Feng Shui Your Life
This is, not joking, one of the best things you can do. When you’ve spent a long time with someone it’s almost impossible not to see them everywhere. They’ve molded themselves into your life and you need a ‘fresh start’ to start changing things. Moving the layout of your room or house; changing your hairstyle; trying a new perfume; all of these small actions help you regain a sense of control over your life. Soon it will start to feel like yours again.
5. Leave Your Tears With a Movie
You might still have some tears in you even after you’ve cried your eyes out during the ‘mourning period’. That’s okay. Movies are a great way to cry and not feel like you’re working backward. Try to avoid movies that are too close to your situation, a safe bet is always period movies like ‘Titanic’ or ‘The Dutchess’. Surf Netflix for what options they have under Drama and pick a tear jerker that appeals to you. Don’t forget your tissues!
6. Above All, Remember You Are A Boss!
During breakups, everyone tends to see the worse in themselves and judge it as a failure. They’re not failures, and you’re not a failure. You are a boss. See the breakup process as an opportunity to grow and get closer to the best version of yourself. Be kind to yourself and you’ll emerge from this breakup a bigger Boss than before, so own it!
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